On a really cold and rainy Hood River day about three winters ago, I
spotted my friend Molly at the pool with her two sons. We both looked way too
white in our bikinis, however hers was a cute little red one with yellow
strips, and mine was a 5-years-old-boring-black suit that was borderline see
thru in the butt from the pool’s chlorine ruining it. Molly always stylish and
Sarah always business and practical. Nonetheless, the two of us were buddies
when we randomly saw each other.
The idea of writing this book had been banging around in my head for a
few months and when I saw Molly whip out gummies and pretzels for snacks, I
knew she was the missing link to this manuscript. You see, Molly has the
ability to take the most horrific moments she has a parent, and with words on
paper, make others laugh out loud. I also knew that she was a mother on the go:
teaching music classes to all—literally all the kids in Hood River while
raising two boys and pregnant with a third. If I could get her to try my Cleanse and write about it, maybe I could actually get the masses as well.
Thankfully, on that cold winter day at the pool she immediately jumped on
board. So please get comfy and be prepared to laugh with Molly as she records
her attempt at an early version of Less Sugar More Veggie Cleanse. Besides making you laugh, I
also hope Molly’s story gives you inspiration to really give this cleanse a
try and document it yourself.
Side bar: it should be noted that when Molly and I first came up with the
rules to the Cleanse we didn’t allow any sugar, but after reading her journal
when she finished, I really felt it would be easier to make this diet a
long-term habit if we allowed one sugar snack. So, when your kids are munching
on pretzels, thank Molly.
Without further ado, please meet Molly Schwarz!
My
background
allow me to
fill you in on who i am. my name is molly. i am a 40 year old mother to dane,
age 5 and cassady age 2 and am pregnant with my third boy tentatively named
lazerwolf. i work part time teaching a music program for children. i am not a
natural in the kitchen. however...
i love food. i
love going out to restaurants where skilled chefs make the food and people with
good balancing skills bring said food out to me. when it comes to preparing
food at home, i lack a lot of tools; namely, confidence. i’m good at one pot
meals, like crock pots and the like, but it takes a lot of forethought and
planning to create meals. forethought and planning make me tired. did i mention
i’m 11 months pregnant at age 40? EVERYTHING makes me tired.
ok, so i don’t
think i am in a desperate situation. i think i do an average job of feeding my
kids. they don’t drink juice at all, only water and they eat a fair amount of
veggies.
cassady is 2
years old and loves food. he’ll try pretty much anything. but before i toot my
horn about that, i think back on my now 5 year old, dane. he used to be like
that. french onion soup, steak, lobster, a nice glass of veuve
cliquot...wait, that’s me.
but really,
until he turned three, he was open to anything. then he turned three and a
change in personality occurred. this is a food based essay, so i won’t go into
detail about how many times i locked him in his room for being an asshole, or
how many times he laughed in my face the angrier i got. age three was the
pits.
i was
exhausted by negotiation so i fed him lots of orange things. not carrots or
mangoes but orange things from the good ol’ american kraft company. pirate
booty for lunch. mac and cheese for dinner all.the.time. pasta in general with
sauce from a jar. cheese sticks. so much processed cheese it’s a wonder he ever
pooped.
but when
cassady came along and started to show an interest in our food, i became aware
of the crap i was serving. i mean, i knew it was crap but i felt like i was
really starting to fail. i felt like a teenager who was babysitting.
and then
there’s the sugar. the delicious nasty drug called sugar. i’m an addict for
sure. why, just this very morning i ate an entire sleeve of thin mints. did you
catch that? “morning”? “sleeve”? thank the lord those cookie pushing vixens
only come round once a year. it’s THEIR fault, of course.
my husband
loves sugar as well. but one day about a year ago, after reading something
probably on my news source of facebook, i decided to DO SOMETHING about our
kid’s sugar intake. i announced this to my husband. his reaction was something
akin to “yeah, we’ll see” or something equally supportive in nature. he
mentioned before that he thinks the kids have too much sugar and that their
dinners are sub par in nutritional value. as the primary caregiver to our kids,
this made me feel angry and unappreciated. I’M the one cooking, I’M the one
cleaning, blah blah blah it’s the age old marital struggle BUT he had a point.
there were far too many promised “special treats” upon visiting various
bakeries and coffee shops. special treats were literally a daily occurrence.”
oh, it’s raining! special treat, mommy?” or “mommy, i breathed air today!
special treat?”
so instead of
getting self defensive, i got proactive. I decided that i would cook ONE meal.
a FAMILY meal. and if the kids didn’t like it, they didn’t have to eat it but
that would be it.
About 50% of
the time, dane says he doesn’t like whatever i make for him. about 100% of the
time cassady shows his approval by eating multiple helpings of anything i make,
saying “good dinna mommy!” bless his heart. when dane does like something i
have slaved over, i feel like i won an oscar.
this past
week, however, there have been multiple dinners of mac and cheese and pasta
with no sauce, just butter and cheese which is basically mac and cheese. i made
a yellow box cake yesterday which i’m ashamed to say, is half eaten by me.
there have been twizzlers and mcdonald’s ice cream cones and french fries.
(god, that is such a good combination). i can’t help feel a twinge of pride
upon seeing both my kids dip their fries into the soft serve. i taught them
that. that’s bad, right? ok, i need help.
Saturday
March 29th
It is 2 days
until d-day. the “d” standing for
“damnitiloveprocessedfoodsandi’llmissthemsomuch”.
the other day
i decided to break the news to dane, over his 10 bowls of cereal, that we will
be having a fun time coming up this week where we’ll make healthy choices to
make our bodies happy and strong.
his face fell.
“no more cereal?” i responded in a cheerful tone, “nope!” i think the breakfast
will be the hardest sell for him and that dinner will be the hardest task for
me. nothing about this will be hard for cassady, as long as there is food being
shoved in his face hole.
i will know
much more after i meet with sarah and we go over the meal plan. i’m hopeful.
Meeting
with Sarah, Sunday evening March 30th
sarah came
over to our house of chaos around bed/bathtime to discuss the upcoming week. we
loosely threw some ideas around focusing a lot on the snack/ lunch areas.
it was time to
go grocery shopping. when we got there sarah said, “you know you never go down
the aisles right?” i laughed uncomfortably. my scandalous aisle trips are for
procuring life cereal and rice chex, coffee, sugary applesauce, monsters inc.
mac and cheese (it’s dane’s favorite because clearly monster shaped things
taste better), tortillas, hard pretzels (my favorite), condiments, t.p. and
diapers. don’t even ask me to try the cloth ones, ok? it’s a hard NO. i guess i
don’t love planet earth as much as i should but it’s a hard NO. i’m trying, ok?
i don’t use paper towels anymore. you’re welcome, trees.
almost $300
later, i was ready to begin. yeah, $300 is a lot of dough but i had to remind
myself that i was buying food for a whole week of breakfast, lunch and dinners
and snacks in between. but still… that’s a $6 box of crackers i just bought.
and normally, i don’t buy crackers at all. i just all of a sudden got nervous
about snacks and lunches. no sandwiches? no lunch meat? no string cheeses? what
the hell will i feed my kids?
Some
thoughts on lunches and snacks
normally, i
pack dane a pb &j sandwich or a turkey and mayo on wheat bread. this wheat
bread contains high fructose corn syrup. this is not in the plan. sugary
delicious peanut butter is also not in the plan. nor is most jelly. so, an
alternative to sandwiches are wraps or tortillas. these also have sugar in
them. sarah guided me to the healthy area of our local grocery store and showed
me some brand of brown rice tortillas. they are frozen. this is a problem. i am
the person who thinks that i can freeze that chicken breast i didn’t use and
NEVER unfreezes that chicken breast. see? i didn’t even say the right word.
THAW. the only thing that belongs in the freezer is ice cream. and eight
freezer burned chicken breasts. so you can imagine my trepidation upon buying
more frozen things. we’ll see…
Day One
Breakfast:
I woke up at
the sound of cassady calling to me and the first thing he says is “cereal now?”
man, have i created cereal monsters. i said. “no, not today!” all cheery-like.
since i am me, i did not have any oatmeal prepared and my kids are hungry first
thing and ten minutes in toddler time is unacceptable. i offered cassady plain
greek yogurt with strawberries, raspberries and honey while i prepared the
oats. he was happy with this. then dane woke up and asked for cereal. i told
him the plan (again) of trying new things this week and he seemed to accept it.
that is until i set the steaming delicious bowl of oatmeal dressed with frozen
raspberries, honey and milk before my prince.
he immediately
said he didn’t like it but he also knows that he has to try things before
declaring such statements. so he tried it and FOUR BOWLS LATER he was full. he
exclaimed multiple times how delicious it was. success! cassady, on the other
hand, refused to try it. my little guy who i was just bragging about earlier,
screams and cries in protest. i couldn’t believe it. i even put the spoon to
his lips in the hope that he would taste it accidentally but nope. it was
unsuccessful.
Lunch:
this
particular day, dane didn’t have pre-school so we decided to go to a local
museum. This meant packing a healthy, sugar free lunch.
i packed:
brown rice
snaps with a sugar free chocolate peanut butter spread
grape tomatoes
apple/apricot
sauce
pistachios
let me be
honest, even i didn’t think any of this looked good, but no matter, it was off
to the museum. when it came time to eat, the kids were less than enthusiastic.
the crackers literally tasted like paper. the delicious sounding spread was not
a hit. the tomatoes were not ripe. the applesauce was really runny and tasted
mostly like apricots, which, for my kids was an unwelcome departure from the
regular high fructose-y deliciousness to which they are accustomed. so it was
pistachios for lunch by default.
needless to
say we were all pretty hungry by the time we got back home so i served an
afternoon snack:
granola bar
and cheddar cheese for kids
avocado and
cheddar cheese for me
Dinner:
i made pork
tenderloin which is actually pretty easy as long as i don’t overcook it.
i served this with a side of roasted veggies.
pork loin
(salt and pepper only)
roasted
cauliflower, broccoli, sweet potatoes and capers
brown rice
made with chicken stock
full
disclosure: i serve all meat i make with a side of honey for dipping. this
defeats the purpose, i believe, of the whole no sugar diet. i know this in my heart
but i was scared. it was the first day. i had taken away their beloved cereal
for godssake. the very least i could do was let them dip that meat into obscene
amounts of honey? right? don’t answer that.
they ate up
that honey, i mean PORK. they ate the rice. they dissected the veggies. out
came the sweet potatoes. out came the capers. who the heck doesn’t like sweet
potatoes? my husband. he hates them. but he also doesn’t like chocolate. how
did i even MARRY that guy?
Day Two
Breakfast:
“salty tears
served with a side of heaving sobs coming right up!”
this morning
dane “elected” for pancakes as if i were even offering pancakes. apparently the
absence of cereal implies that anything else is possible. thank god he didn’t
ask for eggs benedict. i’ve never poached an egg in my life.
i remembered a
healthy pancake recipe involving bananas and oats and no sugar. this recipe
sounded easy but it did call for “pulsed oats”. ugh. that means out came the
vitamix. did i mention how lazy i am?
so for the first
time, i let the boys watch something on the computer while i whipped up this
new healthy breakfast. this was very exciting to them as morning videos never
occur.
banana
pancakes:
2 ripe bananas
2 eggs
1 c. pulsed
oats
½ c. oats
mash bananas,
add eggs, add oats. let sit for 5 minutes. (if too thick, add a splash of
milk, soy or yogurt)
form into
pancakes and cook them, you know, like pancakes.
i have to be
honest with you, i doused those mother effers in honey. in fact, can i be
totally honest? i doused everything in honey. this may not be protocol for the
no sugar diet. i need to ask sarah.
i really
enjoyed these pancakes. like really, really. they were kind of chewy and full
of flavor. kind of like a warm granola bar. dane, however did not share my
enthusiasm. he tried them and then so politely declined anymore and then asked
so politely for regular oatmeal, that i just had to acquiesce. plus, it was
easy for me because i had lots left over from the previous day’s breakfast.
noooo problem.
cassady cried
heaving sobs over the pancakes. he refused to try them and i already knew that
oatmeal was out of the question so i just left the pancakes in front of him
while he sobbed. then the strangest thing happened: he tried them. and guess
what? he actually liked them. he ate 2 of them.
Lunch:
dane’s
lunchbox:
string cheese
crackers
cherry
tomatoes
sliced
cucumbers with crazy salt
pistachios
he ate all of
that boring lunch. man, what a boring lunch.
cassady had:
raw broccoli
dipped in hummus
raspberries
leftover pork
loin (cold) dipped in yes, you guessed it: honey
Afternoon
snack:
for both boys:
a banana
cheesy g.f.
crackers
pistachios
Dinner:
dinner was a
bit of a bust. i realized i gave them a snack way too close to dinner time.
plus, the dinner i made was pretty bad.
chicken
breast marinated in a sugar free soy sauce. chopped and cooked with
coconut milk. added to
that red and yellow bell peppers, mushrooms, onions and broccoli. tossed
all together with some thai noodles.
this sounds
good and all but the sauce was really bland and all the veggies were mushy.
cassady used
the noodles as a head band. dane HATED the meal. i had to threaten dane with
going straight to bed unless he ate a few bites. that’s good parenting right? i
mean, i didn’t mommy dearest him or anything but still…
basically the
dinner was boycotted big time. it must be mentioned that i, too, am following
this meal plan and i managed to choke some down.
Day Three
Breakfast:
cassady wakes
up and first words out of his mouth are a hopeful “cereal now?”. man, i
have created cereal addicts. when i say an overly cheerful “nope!” cassady
dissolves into tears. again. this is not a fun way to start my day. (i haven’t
even had my coffee sans chemical creamer! i love the chemical-y french vanilla
creamer but i have given it up for plain half and half.) so it’s banana
pancakes again for cassady and oatmeal again for dane.
Morning
snack:
dried organic
mangoes and apples
string cheese
smoothie hand
delivered from ms. sarah. a very green one filled with goodness. cassady and i
loved it. dane hated it.
Lunch:
hard boiled
eggs (i forgot how much we all love them, hooray!)
grape tomatoes
carrot sticks
Afternoon
snack:
popcorn…really
can’t go wrong with that!
Dinner:
Baked chicken
breast (pounded thin)
sautéed
onions, fresh spinach, parmesan, feta cheese, green onion, parsley, garlic
place the
sautéed ingredients on the breast and roll them up and then roll in bread
crumbs and bake.
this is a
seriously yummy dinner that my kids seriously disliked. damn it all. cassady
tried it and didn’t like it but true to his form, he tried it again and ate it.
and true to dane’s form, he disliked it from the start BEFORE even tasting it
and chose to go to bed hungry. i really need to broaden dane’s taste bud
horizons.
Day Four
Breakfast:
for cassady,
plain greek yogurt and honey
for dane,
oatmeal again.
dane asked,
“how many more days till we can have cereal again?” this question bothers me
because haven’t we detoxed yet? they are still addicted to the sugary greatness
of cereal. it’s been 4 days! oatmeal is delicious and pancakes are delicious!
methinks we have a long way to go.
Dane’s
(school day) lunch:
banana
string cheese
crackers with
s.f. peanut butter
pureed
mango/pear baby food squeezy thing i found in our cupboard
pistachios
a really great
thing that dane does genuinely love is the sugar free peanut butter. thank the
lord.
Morning
snack for cassady:
delicious
green smoothie from the local health food store.
Lunch for
cassady:
cheddar cheese
slices
pirate booty
dried mangoes
and apples
Dinner:
Falafel w/
greek yogurt dipping sauce
this was so
super yummy and so super quick and easy. sarah pointed out this dried falafel
mix in the bulk section of our grocery store. it couldn’t have been easier.
guess what? the kids didn’t like it. i know, such a shocker. in their defense
the falafel mix was pretty spicy. they pretty much just had yogurt for dinner
but at least that’s something.
Day Five
Breakfast:
Pancakes for
cassady
oatmeal for
dane
for some
reason cassady did not like the pancakes this particular morning. perhaps just
to drive his mommy a little crazy. perhaps breakfast was going TOO well.
Morning
snack for cassady:
smoothie made
by mommy- spinach, frozen mangoes and raspberries, apples and coconut milk.
the verdict:
deeeelicious. cassady drank so much of it and it really was a great feeling to
prepare something so fresh and healthy to give to my sweet little boy. i should
try this more often.
Dane’s
school lunch:
tortilla with
peanut butter and honey (tortillas found in the natural food section-all
natural, no preservatives or weird stuff)
applesauce
string cheese
Dinner:
Daddy made
“Daddy’s Special Eggs” which are scrambled eggs with tomatoes and cheese
(added avocadoes for cassady). Don’t you know everything tastes special when
you add the word special to it?
Day Six
Breakfast:
Oatmeal with
sliced bananas for Dane
yogurt for
Cassady
Lunch:
Tortillas with
s.f. peanut butter and honey for both boys
Thank goodness
for these tortillas. they are soft and delicious and taste even better than the
preservatively delicious mission ones.
Dinner:
Lentil Soup
Chicken stock,
tomatoes, onions, carrots and salt and pepper. i also added some honey to
further the sweetness addiction. molly the enabler. ah well….
the verdict on
the lentil soup: DELICIOUS. so so good. the kids didn’t like it but they both
ate it. yes! i’ve successfully broken their spirits.
Quick story
before i get to the last day.
I had to go to
the grocery store to get something for dinner. I was in a huge hurry and went
to a different store which I was not as familiar with. did i mention i was in a
huge hurry and with both impatient whining boys? i bribed them with the promise
of popsicles. i mean, there has GOT to be a popsicle out there with no sugar,
right?
i grabbed a
rotisserie chicken and began the quest for the treats.
damn it all, i
looked high and low for these things. it was like looking for a mythical
creature such as a unicorn. every box i picked up had sugar added, even the
outshine brand claiming to be 100% fruit. again, i was unfamiliar with this
store and the clock was ticking so i said the dreaded words, “i’m sorry but
they don’t have any that we can buy”. dane dissolved into tears and as he was
crying, a friendly clerk overheard our conversation and offered to go get the
“sugar free” popsicles because he knew exactly where to find them.
what could i
do? i mean, how sweet was that kid to run for me (granted i was ginormously pregnant)
but he came dashing back like he had found the mythical unicorn and said ,
“see? sugar free!”. he handed over a box of fudgesicles. the sugar free kind. a
quick glance at the ingredients told me that i had failed the sugar challenge.
so many unpronounceable chemicals. my heart sank because i knew that i had to
give those to my kids. i HAD to.
i thanked him
through gritted teeth and went home. danny was there and while he unpacked the
goods, he said, “this chicken has sugar in it.” MOTHER FUCKER. rotisserie
chicken.
the ironic
part of the story is that dane, upon seeing me freak out looking for healthy
popsicles, thinks the sugar free fudgesicles are a healthy treat. he told our
friend, jack, “ these are SO good and they’re actually GOOD FOR YOU!!”
no dane. no
they’re not.
Day Seven.
The Last Supper.
Breakfast:
oatmeal with
bananas for dane
yogurt for
cassady
leftover
biscuits with butter
daves killler
bread toast for both kids. neither liked it. too nutty or some annoying
complaint.
i didn’t want
to make a big deal about it being the “last day” because that’s not really the
point, but dane had been keeping track and when he figured it out he said, “YOU
MEAN WE CAN HAVE CEREAL TOMORROW?? CASSADY! WE CAN HAVE CEREAL TOMORROW!!”
good lord,
what have i created.
Lunch:
peanut butter
and honey tortilla roll-ups
cucumbers and
carrots for dane
yogurt with
bananas for cassady because earlier he had fallen and split his lip. ouch!
dane never
EVER eats carrots. but he ate them happily to my surprise. and yes, dammit all,
they each had a dreaded popsicle. DON’T YOU JUDGE ME!
Dinner:
rock fish with
lemon juice and scallions (and salt and pepper) baked in the oven
steamed
cauliflower
raw snap peas
dare i say it?
this dinner was a complete SUCCESS! holy moly, it feels so good to have made
something 1. new and 2. healthy. dane, who is skeptical of anything new,
gobbled it up.
Reflections on
the week:
listen, i’m
not going to sugar coat it (see what i did there??). being sugar free was not
easy at first. it was work. especially in this age where seemingly everything
has some form of sugar in it. personally, it’s not easy for me to be organized,
to have meals planned out in advance. it was hard to not take the easy
route of cereal and goldfish crackers. yes, it was hard but it felt really
great to give my kids healthy choices. if i’m honest with myself, i have a
suspicion that i’ll never be the organized meal planner that i dream of being.
i’ll also never have all my laundry done or have pee-free bathroom floors. but
that’s really ok. i am a very busy mom of soon to be three (!) boys and i’m
happy that i now have an arsenal of healthy choices for not only my kids but
for myself, too. this week has opened my eyes to the fact that yes, it’s a
little more effort on my part to take the time to really look at what i’m
giving my kids but that’s the best part. to care enough to KNOW.
it feels good
and i know my kids are better for it.
even though
tomorrow they will be reunited with their beloved cereal, i know that there
will be no more jiffy peanut butter and dinner won’t exclusively mean mac and
cheese.
i’m trying, ok? i’m trying.
sincerely,
molly
Sarah here again.
Okay, so Molly made a few
mistakes, but she survived and her kids survived! Although Molly doesn’t
continue to abide by the Toddler Cleanse rules, she and her kids walked away
with incredible knowledge. The fact that Dane was bragging to his buddies about
finding sugar-free popsicles is huge (never mind the popsicles actually had
sugar). It was great to see Dane so proud of himself that he could eat so
healthy! That’s success in my book.
